The 2019 Menś Wellness Retreat Was a Success!

    A group of men got together and made history as the first attendees of the Menś Wellness Retreat in Potomac, MD! It was a powerful weekend focused on balance, introspection, self-care and self-empowerment.     Certified Executive Life Coach Lolita Walker of Walker & Walker Enterprises coached us through our 2020 vision board … Continue reading The 2019 Menś Wellness Retreat Was a Success!

The Men’s Wellness Retreat 2019 is Here!

There are a wealth of resources available for the emotional, mental and physical well-being and health of our women, mothers, and sisters. After all, between child care and their busy careers, they are famously known to be overworked and underpaid. BUT, what about the emotional, mental and physical well-being of men – society’s fathers, husbands, and sons? … Continue reading The Men’s Wellness Retreat 2019 is Here!

In Case You Missed It… Do Your Dollars Make Sense? We Talked Building Financial Literacy With Momentumś Allan Boomer

In case you missed last weeks´ show, we discussed investing, franchising, saving and wealth building with the Managing Partner of Momentum Advisors, Allan Boomer, MBA. Allan is a former VP at Goldman Sachs in New York City. He has since taken the leap the start his own private investment firm. Allan has also started a … Continue reading In Case You Missed It… Do Your Dollars Make Sense? We Talked Building Financial Literacy With Momentumś Allan Boomer

Hearing and Listening are Two Different Things

  It is always amazing to me how often people plant their flags in extreme positions, determined to be unmoved. So very determined NOT to see, examine and consider other perspectives. The truth and solutions to the issues that ail us rarely, if ever, lie in extremes. We unfortunately live in a country where from … Continue reading Hearing and Listening are Two Different Things

“Self-Care Is For Wimps” and Other Widely Accepted Delusions…

Do you have a "service" career/job?   Are you a single parent or the parent primarily responsible for your children's day-to-day lives?   Do you spend a disproportionate part of your days/weeks taking care of/listening to/solving the problems and needs of others?   Do you know what SELF-CARE is?   Do you understand the connection … Continue reading “Self-Care Is For Wimps” and Other Widely Accepted Delusions…

In Case You Missed It…We Talked Media and It’s Impact on Society and Youth – Toxic or Necessary – With Radio Vet “The LBD” of Majic 102.3 and 92.7

In case you missed it, we recently had a great conversation on Now We're Talking with Lamar "the LBD" Robinson and Nate from The Artist Exchange Radio Show about all things MEDIA, including the limits of media, morality in the media, and the question of how far is too far? Wendy Williams, Paris Jackson and … Continue reading In Case You Missed It…We Talked Media and It’s Impact on Society and Youth – Toxic or Necessary – With Radio Vet “The LBD” of Majic 102.3 and 92.7

Why Serving Others is Serving Ourselves

I recently had the opportunity to speak to some elementary school students about careers in law.  I've spoken to elementary school students many times before, and did not expect this time to be very different from the others.  I couldn't be more wrong.  I was repeatedly reminded how much children are empty vessels waiting to … Continue reading Why Serving Others is Serving Ourselves

Last Show’s Now We’re Talking Recap – “I Want to Work Out, BUT…”

Recently on Now We're Talking, we talked Physical and Mental Fitness with Certified Personal Trainer, author, and educational consultant, Kenji Jackson. Among other things, we had an awesome discussion about the top excuses busy people use for not exercising, and the keys to overcoming them. This discussion led us to MTA - MONEY, TIME and … Continue reading Last Show’s Now We’re Talking Recap – “I Want to Work Out, BUT…”

In Case You Missed It…Fitness Expert Kenji Jackson Keeps It Real About Physical and Mental Fitness for Busy Folks Like Us!

In case you missed Now We're Talking Live Streaming Radio Show featuring special guest, Author, Educational Consultant and Fitness Expert Mr. Kenji L. Jackson of BKS Fitness where we had an awesome discussion about Physical and Mental Fitness for super BUSY people like YOU! Check out the whole show on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-w_pokDmK7E or on the Now We're Talking Live Facebook … Continue reading In Case You Missed It…Fitness Expert Kenji Jackson Keeps It Real About Physical and Mental Fitness for Busy Folks Like Us!

In Case You Missed It…The Powerhouse Duo of the Downs Collins Lawfirm Talk Business Building, Smollette & More!

I had a blast chatting with the dynamic duo of Jason Downs and Tiffani Collins, Esqs. about business building, million-dollar verdicts, #JussieSmollett and more! If you missed it, check out Downs Collins, P.A., Lolita E Walker and Mervin Bourne on Be Exposed Radio! https://www.facebook.com/Now-Were-Talking-Radio-Show-1876957875766860/ or on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GsPWKEK7Pik&pbjreload=10. https://www.facebook.com/1876957875766860/videos/2431206933778383/

Last Showś Now We´re Talking Recap – Yes, I admit it – I am afraid…

On the last live broadcast of Now Weŕe Talking, Lolita E. Walker and I talked to the people about the age-old elephant in the room - fear. As we all know, fear is one of those things that we often can never completely wrap our minds or our will around. It is at times elusive, … Continue reading Last Showś Now We´re Talking Recap – Yes, I admit it – I am afraid…

Reflections of a Father on Women’s Day 2019…

One week ago today, we celebrated and observed International Women’s Day. I use the word “we” rather intentionally, because personally, the day evoked much more observation and reflection than literal celebration. In a spirit of marvel, I reflected upon society’s recent current events, that are seeing and hearing a rise in women’s voices throughout multiple … Continue reading Reflections of a Father on Women’s Day 2019…

Now We’re Talking Officially Airs Today! Watch Live…Now We’re Talking About…

This Week's Topic: F.E.A.R. : What is FEAR, really? In what ways does FEAR influence your CAREER? In what ways does FEAR influence the way you RAISE YOUR CHILDREN? In what ways does FEAR affect your relationships? Is there such a thing as "HEALTHY FEAR" or is that an oxymoron like "dry water" and being … Continue reading Now We’re Talking Officially Airs Today! Watch Live…Now We’re Talking About…

Now We’re Talking is On it’s Way!

Now We're Talking, a new talk radio show featuring Certified Life Coach and author Lolita E. Walker and attorney and author Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. is coming to Be Exposed Radio in March 2019. Check out our announcement here, and stay tuned for details! Follow us to hear new news first! @themabjr, @lolitaemanuelle #mervinbourne #walkernwalkerchange … Continue reading Now We’re Talking is On it’s Way!

The Power of Individual Experience – Thank You New Brunswick, NJ!

I recently had the pleasure of speaking to an amazing group of seniors in New Brunswick, New Jersey about the power of perspective and creating your own purpose-driven reality.  I was soon reminded how much value our lives hold through our personal experiences. No matter our class, income, nationality or race, our lives are full … Continue reading The Power of Individual Experience – Thank You New Brunswick, NJ!

The Raising of the Son Documentary Poised to Hit the Festival Circuit!

Thank you for your patience! And thank you for your continued support of my book, A Single Mother's Guide to Raising a Son, which has helped so many people begin to transform their lives. Over the last couple of years, I've had the opportunity to work with some amazing people to create a groundbreaking feature-length documentary. Most importantly, … Continue reading The Raising of the Son Documentary Poised to Hit the Festival Circuit!

To My Fellow Men on Father’s Day – 2018

What will the world say about you when you are no longer here?  What legacy will be attached to your name?  Will your children benefit in this world from who their father was?  One of my goals is that what I am most proud of in my life when it is over not be something … Continue reading To My Fellow Men on Father’s Day – 2018

OMG,SMH,LOL – Reflections of a Dad on Spring Break

It's funny how the meaning of "spring break" can change over time. At one point in my life, it meant not having to wake up early for school, and being able to watch television or ride bikes all day long, for a whole week. In undergrad, it often meant a bus ride to someplace hot … Continue reading OMG,SMH,LOL – Reflections of a Dad on Spring Break

“Fatherhood” – No Dress Rehearsal…

"Fatherhood" was a role for which I had no manual, rehearsal or blueprint. Much of what I knew was a compilation of observations, experiences, and my imagination. I dreamed of what kind of father I would be, and made internal self-declarations about what kind of father I would not be.  Today, we celebrate fatherhood of … Continue reading “Fatherhood” – No Dress Rehearsal…

Here’s Why Kids Are Smarter Than Adults

If you were ever a child, depending on how long ago it was (insert smile here) you might remember often asking, or at least wondering but being too afraid or too timid to ask, "why?" BUT - even if you chose not to verbalize it, at least you wondered, right??  Why do I have a … Continue reading Here’s Why Kids Are Smarter Than Adults

Are You “Educated” and Missing the Point?

Let's teach our kids that there is no such thing as having "arrived." Degrees and titles dont equate to value, worth and liberation. Too often, I've encountered people who think they have "made it" and have somehow surpassed the need for self-improvement due to education. Moreover, some of us feel as though we are somehow … Continue reading Are You “Educated” and Missing the Point?

3 Things to Tell Your Kids in the Election Aftermath

In the aftermath of recent events, I've been a bit of a quiet observer, reading and thinking.  So many asked, "What do I tell my kids now?....What is going to happen to us?....What is going to happen to this country?"  Meanwhile, others smiled in triumphant relief, "Thank God!...Get over it!...The country will be made great … Continue reading 3 Things to Tell Your Kids in the Election Aftermath

No Excuses…Quincy Jones & Norman Lear

I recently had the pleasure and honor of getting advice and countless jewels from Quincy Jones and Norman Lear. Quincy told a story a story about being stabbed at the age of seven for walking through "the wrong neighborhood" in Chicago...Norman told a story of his dad going to prison when he was a kid, … Continue reading No Excuses…Quincy Jones & Norman Lear

Who’s Your Competition?

We are all in competition but with who and what? We've all heard someone say, "I'm not in competition with anybody! I don't care what anybody else is doing!" Well, foremost, we should be in competition with ourselves - pushing, prodding, never relenting, in a constant pursuit to make ourselves the best selves we can … Continue reading Who’s Your Competition?

Create These 3 Unforgettable Holiday Memories For Your Kids

Community service: This holiday, in the midst of all the materialism,    taking, and demanding, flip the script on your young ones and plan a community service day for your kids.  Whether its beautifying a park, serving food at a shelter, or collecting canned food the homeless, our children will always remember the gift of … Continue reading Create These 3 Unforgettable Holiday Memories For Your Kids

Uncage Your Heart

If there is a cage around our hearts, our relationships will reflect it. We can only pretend, with caged hearts, to love our mates, and especially, our children - to our fullest capabilities. Turn the key, free yourself today. Our relationships deserve our best selves.  We deceive only ourselves when we think we can selectively … Continue reading Uncage Your Heart

3 “Girl Traits” Every Boy Should Be Taught

Although much of society still embraces gender roles, much of the world has either rejected them, or has adopted some evolving hybrid version of them. Depending on who is raising our boys, priority is placed on teaching them different character traits. Especially in Western countries, most of our boys are being raised primarily by a … Continue reading 3 “Girl Traits” Every Boy Should Be Taught

The Lives That No Longer Matter: “The Baltimore Mom”

A timely piece by Terrence McCoy in the Washington Post recently highlighted the rise and fall of 43 year-old Toya Graham, heralded, "The Baltimore Mom".  Graham rose to instant celebrity when she tracked her masked teenaged son down near Mondawmin Mall in Baltimore among a crowd, reportedly throwing rocks at the police in the midst of … Continue reading The Lives That No Longer Matter: “The Baltimore Mom”

Did Michelle Convince Her Boyfriend to Kill Himself?

The real tragedy of tragedy is not learning from tragedy.  That’s what came to mind as I read this morning about Michelle Carter, an 18 year old Massachusetts high school senior who is on trial for manslaughter.  Carter has been charged with manslaughter for encouraging, pressuring and repeatedly advising her boyfriend, who allegedly suffered from depression, to kill … Continue reading Did Michelle Convince Her Boyfriend to Kill Himself?

Back to School – Have You Told Your Child These Five Things?

Your teacher’s job isn’t to like you; your job is to learn. You might be fortunate enough to have teachers who you are “cool” with. But not having a friendly, relatable, or “cool” teacher is no excuse for not doing your best or not doing well. The reality is that no matter what you do, … Continue reading Back to School – Have You Told Your Child These Five Things?

The Punch Heard Round The World -The NY Jets’ Geno Smith and A Teachable Moment About Manhood

This week, the NFL and football fans everywhere were up in arms (or at least shaking their heads incessantly) about news that the New York Jets star quarterback, Geno Smith, would be out 6-10 weeks after suffering a broken jaw at the hands of a punch to the face by his teammate, IK Enemkpali. According … Continue reading The Punch Heard Round The World -The NY Jets’ Geno Smith and A Teachable Moment About Manhood

3 Important Things “Thank You” From a Child Can Mean

It's the little things in life that mean so much.  Here are 3 simple but significant things a simple "thank you" from a child can mean: I am not entitled to what I have just received: An entitled child believes that they are  entitled to what they want, when they want it.   They believe that it is either … Continue reading 3 Important Things “Thank You” From a Child Can Mean

Three Keys to Unlocking Your Child’s Greatness

1. Capitalize on any spark of talent you see in your child and nurture it. The only difference between some of the most famous people we've ever heard of, and the many more we've NEVER heard of, is that someone recognized a spark, and nurtured it. World Boxing Champions Mike Tyson, Bernard Hopkins and Evander … Continue reading Three Keys to Unlocking Your Child’s Greatness

Fatherhood is Dead

This Father’s Day, as Angelsoft wishes single mothers everywhere, “Happy Father’s Day”, I couldn’t help but say, “Damn, fatherhood is dead.” Not only is fatherhood dead, but society won’t even be able to engage in honest, candid, intellectual discourse about its demise. Particularly, it is unlikely that we will care enough to pause political correctness, … Continue reading Fatherhood is Dead

3 Things Boys (And Men !) Believe About Manhood That Are TOTALLY Wrong

1. Getting women/girls pregnant is a demonstration of manliness.  The right mentors will teach your son that producing children has nothing to do with manhood, because nearly every man is born with the ability to procreate with a woman.  Similarly, having many females can be a symbolic of many things that have nothing to do with manhood.  … Continue reading 3 Things Boys (And Men !) Believe About Manhood That Are TOTALLY Wrong

3 Things Moms Teach Their Sons Everyday Without Even Knowing It!

You might be amazed how as mothers, you are being watched and scrutinized by your children.  Without even realizing it, you are teaching them everyday - these three things: 1. How women deserve to be treated: If you carry yourself with respect and class, don’t let others disrespect you, mistreat you, take advantage of you, … Continue reading 3 Things Moms Teach Their Sons Everyday Without Even Knowing It!

Thank God for my HBCU: A Reflection on Duke University Professor Jerry Hough’s Baltimore Commentary By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. May 19, 2015 @mervinbourne mervinbourne.com

Tonight I had the opportunity to read several articles about Professor Jerry Hough, the Political Science Professor from Duke University, who has made himself famous by expressing his honest opinions about a NY Times article entitled: “How Racism Doomed Baltimore.”  I also made certain to find his actual comments and read them in their entirety, … Continue reading Thank God for my HBCU: A Reflection on Duke University Professor Jerry Hough’s Baltimore Commentary By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. May 19, 2015 @mervinbourne mervinbourne.com