Three Important Things Our Sons Can Learn From @Floydmayweather

By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. (5/2/15) If I had a dollar for every time I've heard someone tell me how much they hated Floyd Mayweather, I could retire today.  And if I had another for every time this week I've heard someone say that they wish he'd get knocked out tonight, I'd be able to … Continue reading Three Important Things Our Sons Can Learn From @Floydmayweather

“Single Moms Should Never Tell Their Sons No”, And 2 Other Things You Should Stop Believing Immediately! By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. April 30, 2015

Being a single mother has it’s own unique parenting pressures and challenges. They are multiplied when the child – unlike you – is a male.   Don’t fall into the common trap of believing these three things: You should never tell your son he can’t have something. Understandably, there can be some guilt associated with single-motherhood … Continue reading “Single Moms Should Never Tell Their Sons No”, And 2 Other Things You Should Stop Believing Immediately! By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. April 30, 2015

The Status Quo – A Take on the 1.5 Million Missing Black Men

By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. I read an article in the New York Times this morning entitled, "1.5 Million Missing Black Men."  (Wolfers, Leonhardt, Quealy) The article echoed themes that I have watched play out in living color for the last decade of my life, in courtrooms and communities in Newark, NJ, and in courtrooms … Continue reading The Status Quo – A Take on the 1.5 Million Missing Black Men

Are Single Parent Homes “Broken”??

I was doing some reading on the net this morning and came across an article from a writer who referred to single parent homes as "broken".  It was actually meant to be an  inspirational piece, within which the writer shared that she also grew up in a "broken" home. She goes on to tell her … Continue reading Are Single Parent Homes “Broken”??

5 Reasons Boys Underachieve

5 Reasons Why Boys Underachieve By Mervin A. Bourne, Jr. They haven’t learned that they are valuable. Boys must be taught their inherent value.  If he believes that he is inherently valuable, he’ll be uncomfortable with doing, achieving, or obtaining less than he is capable of.  He will develop a sense of pride that comes from … Continue reading 5 Reasons Boys Underachieve

Does Society Glamorize Single Motherhood?

This week I came across a beautiful picture of Nia Long on the cover of a prior Essence magazine with her two sons. Caption said, "Single, Satisfied, and Raising Her Boys." Then I came across another article by an author who opined that such articles were actually glamorizing single motherhood. So...obviously there are different schools … Continue reading Does Society Glamorize Single Motherhood?

Hello world!

Welcome to my blog!  Lets get to it...It seems as though most everyone aspires to do better than the generation that came before us.  Even if we are only moderately successful at this goal, we will inevitably have at least a little more than our parents had, and in turn, our children will have more … Continue reading Hello world!